Don Juan braggart is a likely alcoholic. Get out of his way.
Brags about sex
Dear Doug:
I’ve been seeing a man who occasionally tells me about his past loves and the number of women he’s been with. Once in a while he tells me how great sex is when you’re high, even though he knows I don’t do drugs. When we’re not in bed every night, he tells me he is “used to having sex and lots of it.”I’ve told him I don’t want to hear this sort of talk, but he foams at the mouth anyway. We’re both in our 50s and have grown children from previous marriages. What’s your take?
Signed,
Unimpressed
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Dear Codependent,
Some observers may suggest the fact that your boyfriend is desperate to impress you with his sexual history shows he is terribly insecure. They might tell you to point out if he were truly a sexual superman he wouldn’t brag about it, or suggest you simply laugh about it and that might take care of the problem.
Indeed, it could, only because you may not live to challenge his ego another day.
He already admits to serial Don Juanism and doing drugs. This suggests addiction and, therefore, egomania. You’re dealing with a likely drug addicted person and, therefore, someone who may be capable of heinous acts. He is courting you and, therefore, on his best behavior. Since addicts are like icebergs, there could be far bigger problems lurking just beneath the surface. If you challenge the ego of a practicing addict, you take your life into your hands.
Walk away. Quickly. Live to date another man.
(Source for story idea: Annie’s Mailbox, March 27, 2008.)